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Dear Fang, With Love

June 8, 2016

dear fang

Dear Fang, With Love by Rufi Thorpe
Published by Knopf
Publication date: May 24th 2016
Genres: Coming-of-age, Contemporary, Fiction
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Because she wasn’t a trendsetter. No one could hope to be like her. She was one of a kind and, because of this, very much alone. About whether she was pleased with this state of affairs or saddened, I was never entirely sure. Maybe she would have liked to belong.

‘She’ is Vera, Lucas’s teenage daughter. For most of her life he’s been absent; she was the result of a wild whim to have a baby that he and her mother, Katya, acted on when they were briefly in love at age eighteen. A whim that quickly got too real for Lucas. In Dear Fang, With Love it is seventeen years later and Lucas is back in Vera’s life because she’s been hospitalized for what is being called a psychotic episode. Once stabilized, in an effort to lessen the weight of her bipolar diagnosis, Lucas takes Vera with him to Lithuania for the summer.

A smallish novel, the themes explored in Dear Fang, With Love expand far beyond its page count. There is Lucas’s grandmother who was a Holocaust survivor—the trip to Vilnius is to learn more about her life after escaping a concentration camp—but for me what stood out the most was the role of parent in the story. Lucas is an absentee father, a man who left his girlfriend and daughter behind after a failed experiment in communal utopianism. He is a man beset by guilt and an almost constant feeling of failure. Connecting with his vibrantly alive daughter is a gift he did not expect to receive and means that when she shares with him the truth of what really happened the night she was hospitalized he believes her without question and acts immediately to rectify the mistakes he believes were made.

 Then there is the way author Rufi Thorpe crafts Vera and her boyfriend, Fang, and all the effervescent beauty and drama that is the teenage heart and brain. Vera’s emails to Fang are so laden with emotion and the only-the-young immediacy that it is impossible not to remember that time. That Thorpe, writing as Vera, can describe a singer’s voice as

It was like bronze and chocolate melted together and flung through the air in spangles.

is an alchemy that makes Dear Fang, With Love worth reading for no other reason. But it’s not just the heights of emotion that are so well rendered. By and large, Fang is the recipient of Vera’s emails, but later in the novel we hear from him directly and his deference and restraint hits with same impact as Vera’s uninhibited grandiosity.

The heart of Dear Fang, With Love is a spoiler so I’ll stop here. The emotions that circle around the truth are as important as the story itself. They are beautiful and tender: a father’s love, a parent’s feeling of never being good enough, being a teenager in love, the crazy wildness of the teenage mind—its flights of fancy, its ability to latch onto concepts and ideas that are ground completely out of us by adulthood—all of these are the elements that make Dear Fang achingly beautiful.

 

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four-stars

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12 Comments
Filed Under: Book Reviews, Fiction Tagged: coming-of-age, contemporary fiction, family, Knopf, literary, mental health

Comments

  1. Sarah's Book Shelves says

    June 8, 2016 at 4:40 am

    I have this on my “try before EOY list”….I’ve heard great things from a couple people…and now you!

    Reply
  2. KatieMcD @ Bookish Tendencies says

    June 8, 2016 at 6:02 am

    This is the first book I’ve bought in MONTHS, so I’m hoping to get to it soon. It sounds amazing, and the cover is to die for. Glad this one worked for you.

    Reply
  3. Tara says

    June 8, 2016 at 7:59 am

    So many interesting elements and I keep hearing such great things about this one; thank you for the recommendation, Catherine!

    Reply
  4. Leah @ Books Speak Volumes says

    June 8, 2016 at 8:22 am

    This sounds like such a beautiful, complex book. I know we have some copies in the library system; I must find one!

    Reply
  5. Kathy @ Kathy Reads Fiction says

    June 8, 2016 at 3:30 pm

    This one has been given to me as a highly recommended read by a blogger friend, but I’ve put it aside. I think I need to bump it up, though.

    Reply
  6. Monika @ Lovely Bookshelf says

    June 8, 2016 at 3:37 pm

    I loooove novels on the shorter side, especially when they are meaty like this one seems to be. Thanks for sharing this one with us!

    Reply
  7. Amanda says

    June 9, 2016 at 10:41 am

    I am ready for achingly beautiful! I love your review and am looking forward to reading this one.

    Reply
  8. susan says

    June 18, 2016 at 6:24 pm

    Oh I loved Thorpe’s debut novel The Girls of Corona del Mar (it’s an intense novel!) so I must read this one as well. So glad you liked it. Thanks for your review.

    Reply
    • Catherine says

      June 19, 2016 at 6:37 pm

      I actually enjoyed this one more so, hopefully, you’ll like it just as much.

      Reply
  9. hillary says

    June 30, 2016 at 1:41 am

    I have requested this one from the library. I hope i get it soon as I have heard many good things about it.

    Reply
    • Catherine says

      July 1, 2016 at 9:04 am

      It’s perfect for summer- packs a punch but is not too long. There’s a lot of nuance to it as well, which I always appreciate.

      Reply

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